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A cure?

Started by Ranpalan, July 18, 2008, 07:44:39 AM

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Ranpalan

(Sorry if this goes somewhere else...)

Okay, I've had this fetish for quite a while now, and I don't think I want it. Can anybody suggest a way to get rid of it?

I am thinking of not doing anything pee-related (except going to the bathroom, obviously), and punishing myself whenever I imagine/watch someone desperate. Would this work? Can I hope to ever be rid of my innormality?
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Ranpalan

Sorry, I wasn't very clear:

I'm perfectly fine with my fetish, and I accept it as correct - however, there is one thing that ruins it all. Just like with most other things I am interested in, I'm overly obsessed with it. Obsessed to such a state that nothing else turns me on, and I don't even watch any porn (desperation doesn't count as porn for me). Whenever I RP, desperation is common (and pushes everything else out), some people I talk to complain I talk way too much about it - it's just getting too much control of my life. If I could push it out to just be a slight interest, I wouldn't mind it, but even then I'd perfere to be neurotypical...
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KawaiiChew2

Yeah, I know how you feel.
I wish I could get rid of my fetish as well.
What happens whn I have kids? Will I blish when holding one of their un-used diapers? Will I be totally ackward and turn the other way when one of them is desperate or wets themselves?
I don't want those thoughts.
I want to have a normally sex-life, and so far, except from bdsm, this is the only fetish I have..

aptom203

There's no cure for something that isn't an illness. Lots of people feel guilty, or obsessed, about their Kinks or Fetishes. But, this stops if you truly accept it.

A prime example is, many homosexual teenagers are extremely depressed because they think they are doing something dirty and wrong. The ones that turn out alright, and are happy, are the ones who accept it. In extreme cases those that reject it, might get married, and even have children; but they will never love their wife. Isn't it more wrong to deny something like that, than to go against the social norm?
"...but her bladder would broker no delay..."

kamigawa

Trust me, my friend, your fetish is NOT wrong. People would call it wrong because they link their own situations needed to feel excited (commonly sorts of sex) with the world porn, which is nothing but a mere container of an image stored in the mind. People would only try to make you feel ashamed when in great numbers, because there is no way to state what "the right porn" is. You could always say " Just as you are disgusted by my fetish, I am disgusted by your porn" staling the discussion with everyone on this planet.

Think about this: the world fetish is linked to everything that gives a man/woman pleasure but is not sex. Usually pleasure is felt because the body, after a successful sexual intercourse, gives such sensation to the mind as a token of appreciation for the good work just completed, allowing the species to go on with a new life. A fetish is created when the mind switches the concept of "good work, well done" to something else, for example feet, pissing, etc. If you are still there, able to feel aroused by something different from normal porn (and, let me ask this, Who could state what normal porn is or is not?), it means that our species has found a way of surviving even with such a "change of mind" -there have been fetishes in the last thousand of years and we are still here-.

Feel free to go on and follow your personal view of what is exciting. Trying to set your mind back on the (so considered) "normal track" is totally useless and frustrating. As Taiki perfectly explained, in that case a serious psychological treatment would be needed, because the event that made your mind change the image associated to the word "porn" is usually rooted far deep in the brain, linked to many other events that helped its development.

Watching porn is a way of feeling the pleasure you would attain during sex. It's probably the simplest istinct we have to seek pleaure. You have found your way of reaching it, so what's the point if you are going from A to B via D instead of C? Also, an obsession usually self-destructs when an event triggers a chain of thoughts leading to a sense of fullness. You can't beat an obsession with your will unless you are REALLY strong-willed. It will just drift away by itself when the time has come. After all, when it will be the right moment, you'll just switch to an even bigger flow of free pleasure (just write anything on google and go to the last pages. They are 100% porn), so even then there wll be nothing to be afraid of!  :clap:

AliasnameTO

Well some fetishes are a true blessing, like feet. You can see them everywhere. A thing like desperation isn't as good, because a girl will accidentally wet herself less often than big meteors strike the earth, apparently. So I don't think liking desperation is really a blessing, but it is a welcome change than just liking ass and boobs like the other millions of guys out there.

The point of all that is to relax and enjoy it. You're not inferior to anyone with 'vanilla' tastes, and kinks like this are not diseases to be cured.

Ranpalan

And yet, I must try if I can. I don't want to start enjoying normal porn, but I want to decrease my enjoyment of pee... Or at least, become less focused on it.
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phil

Don't feel bad for yourself. Like everyone else is saying, there is noting wrong with a fetish. But if you want to avoid images try putting filters on your computer to prevent them from coming up.

good luck ;)

Serika

Quote from: Seriy on July 18, 2008, 07:04:53 PMbut I want to decrease my enjoyment of pee... Or at least, become less focused on it.

Before i start, i swear i'm not trying to offend you.

This is just a thought, but maybe it's not the fetish that makes you focus on peeing. Maybe it's obsessive behavior by itself that's causing the problem.

QuoteJust like with most other things I am interested in, I'm overly obsessed with it.

If you decide to see professional about this, instead of asking him to erase your fetish you could ask him how to deal with obsession and focus on other things; work, driving, school, and then only focus on girls peeing when it's time to relax and have fun. Honestly, i think it would work better if you were to manage your fetish instead of resist it. I hope this helps. :)
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Ranpalan

Serika, I'm sorry, but I don't seem to understand what you're saying in the first part:

QuoteThis is just a thought, but maybe it's not the fetish that makes you focus on peeing. Maybe it's obsessive behavior by itself that's causing the problem.

I'm not as obsessed about everything else, so if I get this fetish out of the way, I might be a nice person to talk to ;)

I won't see a professional, though. I'm seeing enough of them already...
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EFROdian

Well, you don't have to agree with me, but you're probably obsessed with your fetish because you hardly get to experience it (at least, the way you really want to).  It's already been said that the likelihood of seeing a girl having an accident is less than that of a metaor striking the earth, so it could be you're obsessed because you've yet to feel "satisfied."  If that's the case, then try to either be patient, or lessen your expectations.  Accept and be grateful for what you have now, and don't worry about what you don't have in terms of your fetish (you might be surprised at how much you actually have).  Also, if you obsess about your obsession, then your fetish is only going to be more branded in y our mind.  Many times, if people believe that they think about their fetish too much, or that their fetish is "wrong" and want to stop thinking about it, it's all they think about BECAUSE THEY WANT TO STOP THINKING ABOUT IT!  The very fact that they want to stop thinking about it, means that it is only more prominent in their minds.  So stop thinking that you're thinking about it too much, and you just might not think about it too much!  Sorry, I know my words are kind of confusing, but do you understand what I'm trying to say?  Don't be so hard on yourself, don't think you're obsessed, and you just might find that you aren't anymore.  Anyone else agree?

Taiki

Quote from: EFROdian on July 19, 2008, 02:02:16 AM
Well, you don't have to agree with me, but you're probably obsessed with your fetish because you hardly get to experience it (at least, the way you really want to).  It's already been said that the likelihood of seeing a girl having an accident is less than that of a metaor striking the earth, so it could be you're obsessed because you've yet to feel "satisfied."  If that's the case, then try to either be patient, or lessen your expectations.  Accept and be grateful for what you have now, and don't worry about what you don't have in terms of your fetish (you might be surprised at how much you actually have).  Also, if you obsess about your obsession, then your fetish is only going to be more branded in y our mind.  Many times, if people believe that they think about their fetish too much, or that their fetish is "wrong" and want to stop thinking about it, it's all they think about BECAUSE THEY WANT TO STOP THINKING ABOUT IT!  The very fact that they want to stop thinking about it, means that it is only more prominent in their minds.  So stop thinking that you're thinking about it too much, and you just might not think about it too much!  Sorry, I know my words are kind of confusing, but do you understand what I'm trying to say?  Don't be so hard on yourself, don't think you're obsessed, and you just might find that you aren't anymore.  Anyone else agree?
What this guy said.

Ranpalan

I've had time to think, and I've changed my mind on some things... All I will do is not ask, offer, request, dare, etc. anyone to hold it. This includes myself, my RP and story characters. In addition to that, unless the RP character should have bathroom needs (be pee-based), my characters will never need the bathroom, and will always go if there is a bathroom availible, unless asked not to. The bathroom will also never be unexpectedly unavailibile (locked, broken, etc.)

These will be changed as neccessary.
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Ranpalan

#13
Eh, okay, I've got your position on the issue, but I think I'll stick to these measures for now. Thank you for the input everyone, guess this can be locked?


Edit: Topic locked by the request of OP. Good night everybody. ~Serika
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