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After reading through alot of threads on here it seems to be pretty split on people's views concerning the humiliation aspect of the wetting fetish. Personally watching a wetting video or reading a story without any humilation in it leaves me bored and unsatisfied, then again i'm a bit of a sadist.. the more humiliation the better  :icon_twisted:

what are your thoughts on this subject?

If it's in public, then yes, a good bit of humiliation helps the story to feel well-rounded, and complete. But I feel too much can ruin things.

If she's in the safety of privacy, then only a little bit. Anything more than just a little could ruin it all, and just feel quite nonsensical.

If a girl doesn't feel at least some amount of humiliation in public it makes the character seem less human.

I always assumed that the wetting fetish existed because of the social stigma and embarassment aspect...so to me, it's pretty vital. It used to not matter to me as much, but the more I break down why I like this stuff the more important the humiliation is to me.

I suppose I could understand if you're into the fetish because you like girls who don't care about social norms enough to be embarassed. But that's not really attractive to me.

It's Ok. 

Personally I'm not too into the wetting aspect as I am into the desperation.  I dn't really cared if she is humiliated or not.  While i do prefer a hint of humiliation to accidental wettings, it's not exactly mandatory the they be in a public place or in an EXTREMELY humiliating situation.  After all, in the end she always has to live with the humiliation of having pissed herself, right?

I guess my tastes are a little more complicated regarding humiliation. I wouldn't say that it turns me on as much as the wetting to see her humiliation, but it is a necessity if she's in public. For realism reasons, the embarrassment is as important as the fact that the pee runs down her legs instead of up her body.

Realism aside, I like humiliation because it shows that she's ashamed. She feels incredibly vulnerable at that point, and I think that's really attractive. Otherwise, she could have spilled a drink on herself and not care much.

I've seen it suggested that the opposite of humiliation is an attitude in which the girl doesn't care about her situation (which many people seem to find a turnoff) but I don't think that's true, certainly not in desperation.  I find the effort to conceal a growing need - without in any way being humiliated either by the need or the attempt to mask it - far more erotic than any display of embarrassment.

In my case I think the idea a potential for humiliation is just as effective as that of the humiliation itself. For instance, if she thinks to herself how humiliating an accident would be, in some ways that's more exciting than watching the humiliation after the accident. By that same thread, if she thinks it would be incredibly humiliating to accidentally pee in the pool, but then when she actually does so nobody even notices, it doesn't take away from the situation at all.

Oh, God, yes! Humiliation is so important!! The embarrassment is a hyouge part of it for me. Weird though, a girl who is just really embarrassed - for whatever other reason - doesn't turn me on. I guess it's a specific combination of two parts humiliation and two parts urine. Don't know why, but goddam! The more the better- well said!!

Quote from: Burstyn on August 28, 2009, 12:32:59 PM
I've seen it suggested that the opposite of humiliation is an attitude in which the girl doesn't care about her situation (which many people seem to find a turnoff) but I don't think that's true, certainly not in desperation.  I find the effort to conceal a growing need - without in any way being humiliated either by the need or the attempt to mask it - far more erotic than any display of embarrassment.

It's not nearly as much embarrassment from desperation as from wetting, and that's what I was referring to. Sure, trying to hide a need is one thing, but you can't really hide a huge wet swath on your pants.

For me, it's the desperation that appeals, not the actual peeing and certainly not wetting of clothes: I don't like that at all, really.  I think I feel the humilation as keenly as the wetter and I don't find that enjoyable.

Well of course humiliation is important! It's half the fun! When a girl is humiliated after peeing, you know it's not because she wanted to, but because her bladder couldn't hold out any more. That makes it more erotic if you ask me. :clap:

Humiliation plays an important aspect in desperation and wetting. I find the situation to be more erotic if more people are involved, especially if those people knew the girl. I don't like delibrate desperation and wetting at all.

Accidental + humiliation is the best IMO.  :drool:

Whilst I like a bit of humiliation, it can be overdone, in say other websites pee videos, and then this leads to a fake feeling which turns me off, but if done well, humilliation can be great

Humiliation is more of a turn on to me than the actual wetting. The wetting is a quick way to get there :)

I personally like embarrassment more than humiliation.
IMO, humiliation can lead to tramatization and that's never good >_<

or like one of the other posters here, the complete opposite of embarrassment where the girl isn't phased at all or very little about her desperation and/or wetting is definitely a plus, to me ^_^

I've always been more into watching them struggle to try to hold it in, the buildup to the eventual release - and the relief associated with the release itself. The reason I like wetting more than simply peeing is because the feeling of the warmth spreading over a woman's crotch is arguably more enjoyable than just the release itself.

It's about losing control - doing it against her will. It spoils it if she gives up and pees voluntarily, or worse, if she enjoys peeing herself.

How is it bad if she enjoys it? Doing it against her will and not enjoying it are two separate things - a girl can lose control involuntarily and still enjoy it when it comes out... in fact, that's the kind of desperation and wetting I like best! If she truly doesn't enjoy the feeling of relieving herself in her pants, not even secretly, then I don't find that attractive. The humiliation aspect is inevitable if it's in public, anyway... the humiliation itself makes little difference in my opinion.

Personally I like the humiliation for me it is a major turn-on but it needs to be done right, it should not be overblown. I feel it is important in a public scenario and without it the story/picture/comic/video/etc comes across as a bit wooden and boring. Which is why i don't like the skymouse videos because the actresses are to wooden in their reactions. Though in a non-public scenario humiliation is not as important.

i would say that humilliation is a piece of why i love Female Desperation. the emberassment, the helplessness, and idea in general that the girl just wet herself and need someone to assist her in making her feel better. if i ever find a cute girl wetting herself, you'de bet that i'de be there to give her a hug and getter her out of her situation.

Quote from: LivingInfinite on August 27, 2009, 12:25:41 AM
I always assumed that the wetting fetish existed because of the social stigma and embarassment aspect...so to me, it's pretty vital. It used to not matter to me as much, but the more I break down why I like this stuff the more important the humiliation is to me.

I suppose I could understand if you're into the fetish because you like girls who don't care about social norms enough to be embarassed. But that's not really attractive to me.

This. Some of the best stories I've ever seen were ruined because of the last couple of paragraphs saying "everyone laughed at her so much she never made friends again" or when the line of embarrassment is crossed and we get into downright sadism.

A few laughs and some blushing is all I need.

I think perhaps the difference in taste (e.g. humiliation vs. naughty) has to do with one's conception of cuteness. If one finds innocence attractive, then IMO they'll likely find humiliation/embarrassment attractive as well, since desperation, accidental wetting, the panic, and the resulting humiliation reflects a child-like loss of control and need for emotional reassurance; people who like intentional wetting and shamelessness, on the other hand, are IMO likely to be turned on by strong women, and/or whose sense of cuteness involves an aspect of devilishness on the part of the girl. In any case, while urine and the wet patch are both erotic in their own right, they can also symbolize either helplessness or rebellion.

Although, the aspects of humiliation and enjoyment on the part of the girl aren't mutually-exclusive, either - that is to say, a girl who involuntarily wets herself in public may enjoy the adrenaline rush that comes with the panic at the loss of control, the extreme embarrassment, and even the loss of control itself, in a similar way to how many people enjoy roller-coaster rides. And it may likewise be a turn on for the observer to know that the girl is feeling that.